Has porn become fashionable? If so, is it women’s responsibility? Recently, an opinion piece on the topic has created a stir and promoted discussion among women and mothers.

Patrick Wanis, PhD, human behavior and relationship expert, stated that, “Porn is becoming a new ideal and value for young girls. And women are responsible.”

Is it true that women are to blame for an increase in pornographic material? Have women made porn the hot new thing? Is it something that daughters around the country now aspire to participate in?

I interviewed several women, including some mothers, on the subject. Opinions were strong and varied.

Mothers speak on whether women have made porn fashionable

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An opinion piece on how women made porn fashionable, published on Fox News has stirred a discussion among women and mothers. (Photo by Shutterstock)

Sally, of Exploits of a Military Mama, and mother of two boys, said, “Not porn, per say, because I think many women are still offended by actual, visual porn. But being sexy? Maybe not fashionable, but at least acceptable. Though, the process of sexual freedom has been evolving since the sixties, at least, so it’s nothing new. What we consider ‘sexy’ is just constantly evolving. I also think people accept sexual promiscuity more than before (not in this household), but it’s not shocking for it to be accepted on high school and college campuses and in the lives of 20-somethings.”

Kendra, mother of a son and daughter, said, “To say women as a gender have made this outward statement about their sexuality is valid. I personally can’t say that I have made it, and to say women have created this behavior all alone is ignorant. Men are just as responsible for shaping society into thinking that women are to be overly ‘sexy’ to keep a man’s attention. However women wanted to be free to do as they pleased with their own personal sexuality and I feel that society as a whole has exploited it. I grew up in a home where there was no pornographic material, no posters of women half-naked in the garage and the expectation to cover myself appropriately was significant. Sex, unfortunately, is shoved down our throats from a very early age and after you watch other women act out on their desires constantly we have become somewhat numb or desensitized to it.”

These mothers agree that women have reclaimed “sexy” and perhaps add fuel to the desires of young girls to be like their elders but as for porn fashionable? Not so much.

So, what exactly is pornography, anyway?

Nicole doesn’t believe that dressing provocatively or watching sexy movies is, in fact, pornographic. She says, “I think this is an interesting topic and it is clearly not acceptable to some women. I would argue that none of those things are actually pornography, except for Fifty Shades of Grey.

According to dictionary.com, she’s right. Pornography is defined as “obscene writings, drawings, photographs, or the like, especially those having little or no artistic merit.”

 

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Has embracing our sexuality led to pornography becoming trendy?

 

How women made porn fashionable

The debate on whether women have made porn fashionable leads us this question: Has embracing our sexuality led to pornography becoming trendy?

Kendra says, “it is a personal decision based on one’s values. I would lean toward the fact that since a woman’s sexuality is so glorified, that it does leave a gateway to think porn is okay. I don’t agree with it, but it is a fact of life anymore that men and women are going to look at it and some objectify it. I think that somewhere along the line of women’s liberation it made it more acceptable to view this as all women’s choice.”

Perhaps women have made porn fashionable in the sense that it is more socially acceptable, but is that a bad thing?

Nicole says, “I haven’t read Fifty Shades of Grey and don’t know if I would enjoy it, but I don’t think reading about people having a particular kind of sex is dangerous for our society in any way.” And many other women agree with her. Unless an individual becomes addicted, the common consensus is that, whether pornography becomes an individual pleasure or shared form of foreplay, it’s not posing harm whether it’s “fashionable” or not.

Kristin Ziegler, founder of Ghurl, Talk! and scholar in the area of Pornography, indicated that pornography typically poses no harm and can, in fact, be healthy. She states, “Pornography, and sexually explicit materials, can give us the language necessary to define our sexualities for ourselves and communicate our desires and boundaries with future partners. This is tremendously healthy, as sex education within our school systems is stripped down to the bone and sexuality (particularly that of women and gay men) in our media is still censored considerably. Too often, we don’t know what is normal and healthy in the bedroom. This can lead to feeling shame in our bodies and desires, which may manifest in any way from low self-esteem to acting out repressed fantasies in violent and nonconsensual ways.”

Do you think women made porn fashionable? And if so, what are the repercussions?
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